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If I Could Do It Over


By: Dr. Robert Neposlan

I ran across this recently and if your children are older, you’ll probably relate:

parentsIf I had my child to raise all over again…I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later. I’d finger paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes… I would care to know less and know to care more… I’d take more hikes and fly more kites… I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play… I’d ignore the stares and stare at more stars… I’d do more hugging and less tugging… I’d see the oak in the acorn more often… I would be firm less often, and affirm much more… I’d abandon my love of power, in favor of the power of love…

In my practice often times the realization of time passing is brought up in conversation with patients. More than once we reflect on the passing of time through the accomplishments of our children and the milestones they are reaching as they move through life. I’m reminded on a regular basis, as my children lay down on my chiropractic table to be adjusted …how quickly they grow.

We all get tied up in life thinking that the future will bring us more time and when we accomplish this or that we’ll be free to give more. If the above poem doesn’t resonate with you, ask someone who’s older what it means to him or her.

Be the extraordinary parent, child, friend or community member you always wanted to be. Today!

Until next week

Think Well,

Dr. Rob

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  1. Nadia Bezaire says
    Dec 10, 2015 at 7:30 PM

    This is a wonderful poem. As older parents of older children, this poem brings us back quite a ways to when our boys were young...seems like yesterday though. As we look back at how our boys were raised and where they are today. We did things right. We can see now all the effort made to bring them up right payed off. We are very proud of them, therefore proud of ourselves for doing things right...which by the way we didn't know if our efforts would pay off. Our boys are goal driven, they respect others as well as themselves, they know what they want out of life, they are all hard workers, they know how to talk to people and present themselves well. They are not socially awkward. So much more to mention as we are so proud of them. We truly believe that all our efforts when they were young lead them to be the Men they are today. When we had children we adjusted to our new life with them and they became a part of us. As with anything...what you put into it is what you get out of it. You cannot expect the same output when someone else does the work for you.

    • says
      Dec 17, 2015 at 5:02 PM

      Beautifully written Nadia! You and Tom are such wonderful people, and a joy to be around. It is no surprise that you have raised such wonderful children as well. You guys set a great example!!! :)

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